It’s a New Year so that means you’ve set new resolutions and goals.
But…there’s a four-lettered work that might keep you from seeing them through or fall by the wayside . . . FEAR.
It gets to the best of us, whether it is fear of failure, success, or even of fear itself. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly successful.
But hold up and don’t panic! There’s a way to conquer them and what better time to start than 2021. S
Say No to Fear and follow these 10 fast-acting tips for you to conquer your fear this year:
Reality Vs Perception
See the reality of the situation for what it is. Be rational and get clear on the facts. Soul search and explore your perception of the situation at hand.
What’s The Trigger?
Isolate the specific aspects of the situation that trigger your fearful thoughts. What’s the worst that could happen? Change the way you look at these triggers and you will immediately change the way you react.
Fear Lives…
Be in tune with where your fear lives in your body. Use it as an indicator to tell you when something needs to be addressed. What you are aware of you can act on.
Observe, observe, observe!
When you observe something, you do it from a detached place. So if you become an observer of your fear, then you’re not in it and reacting instinctively.
Change the Way You Talk Yourself
Monitor your inner conversations. When you hear negative self-talk, stop and change the script to positive talk. Keep repeating it.
Create A New Association
When you feel fear, think of something or someone you love. Keep repeating this and soon your brain will associate your fear trigger with something much more pleasurable.
Consider The Worst
Imagine the worst that can happen and come up with strategies that avoid or lessen the likelihood of it happening. What can you put in place to ensure that the worst-case scenario never happens?
Look At The Glass Half Full
Perception is a very powerful thing. And how you feel about your situation dictates how you respond. So think positively and youíll give yourself a much better chance of success.
Learn How To Create Space
Because fear happens in the emotional part of the brain, it’s natural to act instinctively. So when fear rises, break the cycle by stopping, creating space, and breathing. This will give you time to calm down and allow your rational brain time to catch up.
Make It Safe
When you feel safe, there is no need for fear. One of the best ways to overcome it is to create the safest environment possible. And that’s why itís important to practice, practice, and practice again.
Finally, don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your goals and highest potential this year. If you’d like some extra support and inspiration to reset and refocus, why not sign up for my downloadable Practical Ways to Fight Fear.
Remember, it’s your life, your choice, so live your greatest life!
Bonus:
I must confess! I actually have a secret fear as we move into 2021.
This has been on my mind recently as we ended 2020 and started a “new” year that I have to share with my community.
Y’all know what I say about the “F” word…you gotta “push past the fear.” But here goes…
My Confession
I find it difficult to be optimistic about our future, related to freedom, lifestyle and travel. It’s fair to say that life will not go back to pre-COVID-19 conditions and that kinda scares me.
Yes, I can admit that there has been progress and moments of brilliance and innovation, and it wouldn’t have happened without the pressures we faced in the last year. Yet, we’ve seen some ugly things, and going into 2021, what if it’s more of the same??
I haven’t told anyone about this fear of mine because I am afraid that others will judge or dismiss me… it’s a fear that I’ve kept to myself until now!
I’m a realist. It’s been difficult to be optimistic about the shit show happening in the U.S.
In fact, I pray that this COVID-19 vaccine is effective and the death toll completely stops! All of them are deeply rooted in COVID-19 and the state of the world.
Am I the only one?
Even though I have not completely fallen into despair, I am able to manage this fear in three ways:
- Find ways to repurpose my goals and lifestyle.
- Be flexible and include other possibilities.
- Give grace to myself and others.
The most important tip is to let fear have its place because truly there’s no success or confidence, without it. I used to think that to be successful or confident that there had to be an absence of fear. I can personally attest to how I’ve been able to “push past my fear” by doing it scared anyway. Not 100% of the time that I am without fear. And, it seems to be the same going into this year.
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